Linda Hill writes about how she overcame her personal ‘stuckness’ by setting goals, praising momentum, and powering through wish lists and adventures.
They say the core to all successful personal growth is the conscious decision to change, to take responsibility for one own’s mental care and to develop new and more functional ways of being a better self.
My journey began over 3 years ago where I decided I wanted a better life, I wanted change and I wanted to get out of my comfort zone, stop moaning about the things I didn’t have, and to live a positive life – where good things happened to me instead of me being the victim of boredom, and basically living everyday the same.
I read a book about the life coach Tony Robbins a couple of years back and decided to look him up on social media. I began looking for other inspiring people and anything to do with positivity that I liked. I began watching you tube videos of speakers, entrepreneurs and anything that spoke confidence I ran after. The seed was planted, and I needed to nourish it daily in order to keep my momentum going. They say the secret to change is in daily living, and so the change began for me.
Whilst seeking these new changes in my life over a period of time, I found my soulmate… her name was confidence. My definition of soulmate is the one that makes life come to life, so confidence became my best friend. I became alive again. They say confidence is like a muscle – the more you use it the stronger it gets.
We are all born with that potential skill, it just needs to be worked on. I began to surround myself with positive like-minded people, people who didn’t moan, people who looked for solutions instead of looking at problems. I started journaling and bought a gratitude journal which has become my daily ritual these days. I went to seminars, completed programs, pushed my boundaries doing things on my own, explored myself and became a lover of meeting new people and hearing their stories.
I began to set myself mini goals (small tasks), and when I achieved them I praised myself. I am learning the skill to change the way I think of a task and what obstacles will come in my way and how to overcome these, to try stay focused and see the task through whereas before I probably would have gave up half way. Always remember the reason why you set yourself this task and remember the finish line, push yourself and then you will see the magic happen.
I’ve started to love myself, flaws and all. I love challenges where before they scared me. I’ve learned to master what blocks me from doing things especially if they fear me… i.e. excuses. When I find myself using excuses I question myself with what backs up these excuses or I ask myself the whys or the why not’s? I am currently working on my strengths and weaknesses, learning new ways to break habits and create new ones. The past 3 years I have travelled more than I have in the whole of my life. I have over come obstacles in my life that I have amazed myself.
I think if we write what we want down visualise and imagine it that we act like a magnet and it comes to us. My evidence is a 101 list I wrote of things, places, adventures I want in my life. To date I have put a line through some of the things on the list and plan to carry out more this year.
I’ve gone from my shy twenties of holding my head low to a body transformation at present where I am holding weights up high to make myself a better person. I’ve gone from not being able to climb stairs after a hysterectomy to climbing Snowdonia in the past 6 months! When you stop limiting yourself you can do anything.
There is 1440 minutes in each day, so every day I take a couple of minutes to express gratitude, log my daily positive quote and set tasks that hold me accountable to do certain chores in my everyday living.
I have learned it is not rocket science and it’s free to live a happy positive life.
My secret is a dollop of confidence, a splash of positivity stirred with the willingness to change quenches my thirst for life.
Life is for Living.